‘every man for himself
For a long time, I was convinced that this was the title of a track or album by Audioslave and it kept popping up in my head time and time again when I thought about how everyone seems to be out to care for themselves and themselves only. Turns out it is the title of a Hoobastank album which is not so cool ( :-p ) but this proverb keeps appearing in my thoughts over and over again so I thought I should probably write something about it.
This kind of links to the post about help that I wrote the other day as the theme of the moment for people I know seems to be ‘ask Amy for help!’ which is getting quite tiring and is testing how patient I can be with everyone. Just as I think I have helped out those who request it as best as I can, another person shows up out of nowhere and I have to keep calm and try my best to help in whatever way I can. As I mentioned in my ‘help’ post too, I do want to help others but it’s when they barely show a sign of gratification or they are rude and unkind to me in general life that makes me wonder if I really should give them my time!
I do think we are still in the kind of world where everyone is out to save their own skin and are quite reluctant to look out for others unless they have a personal interest in doing so or think they will get some sort of praise for putting themselves out for other people. I personally get an inexplicable amount of energy and feeling of happiness when I have helped someone and they show genuine gratitude for the time I have put towards helping. But maybe the lesson for me is to help people regardless of their past actions and hopefully (although it doesn’t seem likely at the moment) they will start to show their gratification one day, I don’t know.
I do apologise if this post seems quite negative but this subject always saddens me because people seem to be very defensive and scared to open up to others. But if we all learnt to share and help each other out a bit more then maybe they wouldn’t need to be so scared to protect themselves and their interests anymore!
This is just something I need to learn about as I go along and part of me is optimistic that people will slowly learn how to share and appreciate others!
I think there is definitely hope 🙂